Becoming the Change We Wish to See
In my first Q Process Workshop, over a year ago, I discovered the Q stands for “Quantum.” According to Webster a Quantum Leap is defined as “an abrupt change, sudden increase, or dramatic advance.” In other words, a radical shift. At the beginning of the day long workshop, we were asked to draw a card from a card deck called “Who Have You Come Here To Be: 101 Possibilities for Contemplation.” I picked “QUANTUM!” Huh?! I’ve come here to be quantum? Well, they weren’t kidding, I gradually experienced the meaning of my card during this year of practicing the Q Process. A drastic shift has indeed occurred, transforming my life, my relationships and my world. If I say nothing else here, I would say Thank You to Dr. Simmons, Dr. Bonario, to Denese Schellink, and to the quantum field of potentiality of which I am an integral part.
Using seemingly insignificant events, the process starts with uncovering uncomfortable feelings, false beliefs and unmet needs. A huge belief of mine showed itself early on, “I don’t matter in this world and I am in everyone’s way.” I found, because of early childhood experiences, this belief has played itself out over and over again becoming my perceived reality. In going through the steps of the Q when this belief gets triggered, I almost always come to this little story of “I am a mistake.” And, it’s just a belief.
What if the belief isn’t true? How would I live my life if the opposite were true? What if I DID matter, if I am here on purpose, if I’m necessary, even! When I rewrite the story from a new perspective, giving thanks for being able to see how I might heal and for being able to see the belief for what it has been and how it no longer fits, a shift happens. I start to FEEL worthy. I start to ACT worthy. I start to respond from a place of honor, power, authenticity, and ownership of my true self instead of simply receiving what life has to dish out. I have authority over my life, I become the author of my life-story. I am no longer a victim of circumstance when I let go of false beliefs and start steering my own ship, becoming responsible for my own life right here, right now.
So, who HAVE I come here to be? I have come here to be kind, genuine, vital, and clear. I am finding it possible to respond to virtually every circumstance with these attributes. When I don’t it is because something in me isn’t healed and is operating on a false belief, which shows up as an unmet need. That need is easily met when I embrace the shadow and step into the light of compassionate understanding of myself and others. The Q Process gives a way to do that.
By practicing the process, my consciousness changes which in turn creates a new field of possibility that is coherent with who I came here to be. I start to consciously respond differently. I don’t cower anymore, I have stopped apologizing for myself at every turn, I speak more clearly and more simply, I listen more, and have simplified my activities to be gentler, easier, and more relaxing without a need to somehow “prove” my existence or my worth. As I respond differently by releasing old beliefs and consequently old patterns of behavior, everything in the field quickly responds accordingly.
The evidence shows that by following a clearly defined set of steps, it is possible to change reality. Or rather, reality can change you! Since starting the Q Process, I have experienced an upgrade in my living situation, the ending of an unsatisfactory relationship, an increase in income and have a certain ease about life which is quite new. I feel more powerful, more gracious, less angry, less worried, more effective, more relaxed, and so very grateful.
Every day I get triggered by circumstances reminding me that I can change the quantum field of my inner reality at any moment so as to experience life as who I came here to be. The Q Process gives a way to “be the change you wish to see.” As Mahatma Gandhi has stated so profoundly:
“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi